The Second Time Around (Parenting Aus)
Yes, this is me the second time around. (And no, I can’t believe I’m posting this photo either…) In comparison to my first pregnancy, the second time I was much bigger, much more tired, and much less fussed over! Spending time with some of my special mummy friends this week has reminded me of the challenges of second time pregnancy. (And looking at this photo has reminded me of why twelve months later I still haven’t quite got my body back. Seriously – this is me at 38wks. I still had three weeks to go before I was induced!!)
…I often hear mothers who are pregnant the second time around say that they feel like no one has even noticed they are pregnant. I remember feeling exactly the same. My second pregnancy was no less special to me than my first. No less significant, or important or worthy of fuss. But it didn’t cause the same celebration and I found that hard to process…
To read the rest of this post head over to Parenting Australia where I’m blogging today. Feel free to comment there or here about your own experience.
(But no rude comments about my huge-ness, ok?)
Oh Cath, you look beautiful! You are all belly! Thank you for sharing that photo with us.
Sarah xx
Well where else did you think he was going to go. You are so tiny. Not like me, my kids hid under my ribs. I wish I had a watermelon tummy to look pregnant instead of just fat.
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You look beautiful Cath, and absolutely happy. I agree that second time pregnancies are just as special, but not everyone else in your life agrees. It’s an interesting topic.
Yes, you are all tummy
It is sad when, for some people, it is just another one. By the time our fourth came around, we found it just as special as the other 3.
…and people still haven’t stopped asking us if we are having more…
Kids are awesome.
So true… I’ve been slack lately though and haven’t been buying enough present or making enough fuss about friend’s pregnancys. I”m excited about it but probably not showing it enough!
I wanted to share the story of a friend of mine who was pregnant with her fourth baby a few years ago. This was going to be her fourth baby in just over three years. She was really struggling because they’d planned on stopping at three because the load was already too much. It was a very very tough time for her – she’s a wonderful, strong mother and woman and seeing her like that was really difficult.
I hadn’t had my children yet so I didn’t know that you only threw baby showers for the first baby, so I automatically got in touch with my sister-in-law and we threw her a surprise baby shower. We asked guests to buy things for her, instead of for the baby – we figured she already had enough of that!
Her fourth baby, a daughter just turned six and my friend still talks about that baby shower. She said it was such an amazing experience for her and that it really did help her through such a difficult time. She said it helped her realise that she did have people who loved her and that she wasn’t alone in it.
I”ll always be grateful for the fact that I was blissfully unaware that I was going against tradition by throwing a shower for baby #4. I had no idea how much it would mean to her.
PS – I love the photo too
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I’d just like to say that as a mother of twins, you look positively tiny!! LOL In all seriousness, I carried my twins to 38 weeks and I was so enormous people actually stopped and stared open-mouthed at me. I was also the topic of many conversations as I walked by: How many weeks is she? She’s got to be having twins, yeah?
It was quite hilarious and something I look back on with wonder. I love being pregnant, and having my twins was no exception. You look beautiful
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