Comments on: First Taste of Guilt

By: Trish

Trish — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 12:01:59 +0000

I agree with Kate , most mothers would have ignored it .
Both children will learn a lesson…the other mother will hopefully warn her child next time too.
I digress to warn … I went down one of those play centre slides and I skinned both of my elbows (it really hurt and still does).Long sleeves or keep your elbows up.
I took a look from the top of one it was scary as and here was I encouraging my little boys to go down.
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By: Nicole

Nicole — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 11:11:54 +0000

You did the right thing, you can’t do more than that. At least you know Miss 3 will be quite fine at Kindy next year.
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By: Tracy Skellern-Sith

Tracy Skellern-Sith — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 09:25:17 +0000

Powerful lesson in relationship management – being ‘right’ doesn’t always lead to long term relationships.

I was reading in anticipation of your chat with your daughter to debrief? Will there be a “part 2″?

By: katepickle

katepickle — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 03:58:04 +0000

Wow you actually followed up… you went and spoke to the mother, that is a rare rare thing these days!

I hope it wasn’t just you and your little one who learnt something from this… I hope the other mother and child also learnt from your example.
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By: Joni

Joni — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 03:30:42 +0000

That’s such a hard lesson to learn.. it’s so true though. As much as I also don’t want my children to experience unpleasant emotions, it really is part of growing and learning. Unfortunately (
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By: Super Kawaii Mama

Super Kawaii Mama — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 05:32:11 +0000

I had a laugh to myself on this one. The same thing would happen with my girls because we have what we call an “own stupid fault rule.” If they have been told and told not to sit at the bottom of the slide, then go ahead and get kicked because they are… well no sympathy. But as you say, the only problem with that is that they then extrapolate and apply it to everyone!
Oops.
Still, getting a 3 year old to appologise is a feat in itself, so at least you’re off to a good start.
xx SKM

By: amanda

amanda — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 02:57:32 +0000

I am sure it was worth the heaviness in the pit of the stomach. Learning healthy “shame” is such an important thing, even if we might feel a little “guilty” about teaching it. As you said… it is about a moral compass. And it is an important preventer (if I can put it that way ) of things like bullying in the future.

God chastens those he loves … and He really knows how to love

By: Bec

Bec — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 02:42:10 +0000

You know, I’m betting both kids learned something out of it.

By: Jodie at Mummy Mayhem

Jodie at Mummy Mayhem — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 02:40:33 +0000

You captured so well how I feel about my own kids when I know they’re feeling bad about something. Especially my 5yr old. He worries about things more than the other two do (a 7yr old and a 2yr old). He probably has the better sense of what’s wrong and what’s right. But anyway, I can often see in their faces when they’re feeling guilty or worrying about something and I really feel for them.

Oh darn it. You’ve made me miss them now. (They’re at school & daycare 2day.)

But I’m sure I’ll manage!

Great post.
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By: cath

cath — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 02:18:05 +0000

From Facebook:

Claudette Betterridge:
Fantastic story Cath – what a great learning experience for everyone. Children can teach us such a lot – if only we are prepared to listen. I hope the other child and mother also took something away from it!

Dawn Logan:
It happens to every mother and every child. As long as they learn from it, nothing else matters. It’s all part of growing for mother and child.