Comments on: Bribery or Strategy? http://squigglemum.com/mums/bribery-or-strategy/ A Mother\'s Heart, A Teacher\'s Mind, A Writer\'s Hand Thu, 09 Sep 2010 03:53:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Tanya http://squigglemum.com/mums/bribery-or-strategy/comment-page-1/#comment-432 Tanya Sat, 06 Dec 2008 03:50:50 +0000 http://mysquiggles.com/?p=53#comment-432 The difference between bribery and reward is apparently when you give the treat; before = bribery, after = reward. So you really just rewarded her! Besides, I also think it is important to factor in her motivation to behave; e.g. is this an activity I can reasonably expect my child to find enjoyable? Did she have any say in doing this? Would I enjoy the same experience given the circumstances? I really prefer the terms "incentive" or "bonus"; you get these for good work and it motivates you more! How much you put in determines how much you get back; in your case, half a donut! If what you did was sinking to a parenting "low", then you've really only joined the ranks of the rest of us! The difference between bribery and reward is apparently when you give the treat; before = bribery, after = reward. So you really just rewarded her! Besides, I also think it is important to factor in her motivation to behave; e.g. is this an activity I can reasonably expect my child to find enjoyable? Did she have any say in doing this? Would I enjoy the same experience given the circumstances?

I really prefer the terms “incentive” or “bonus”; you get these for good work and it motivates you more! How much you put in determines how much you get back; in your case, half a donut!

If what you did was sinking to a parenting “low”, then you’ve really only joined the ranks of the rest of us!

]]> By: Nicole http://squigglemum.com/mums/bribery-or-strategy/comment-page-1/#comment-431 Nicole Wed, 03 Dec 2008 02:29:21 +0000 http://mysquiggles.com/?p=53#comment-431 Effort = reward I go to work = they pay me Zoe tidies her playroom before bed = I read her some books Riley poops = I clean it (well the first two anyway. I always bribe Zoe at the shops She is pretrty good we shop at a few stores then she gets to play in the park, shop a bit more play a bit more. Everyone is happy. Effort = reward

I go to work = they pay me
Zoe tidies her playroom before bed = I read her some books
Riley poops = I clean it (well the first two anyway.

I always bribe Zoe at the shops She is pretrty good we shop at a few stores then she gets to play in the park, shop a bit more play a bit more. Everyone is happy.

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